Vanilla Sex V.s Kinky Sex?

“Kinky” or “Vanilla”, what’s your flavour? Reality is, you’re probably a bit of both and your sexual preferences are always changing and evolving over time.

Vanilla sex is loosely defined as the standard, mainstream version of sex. Originally, “vanilla” was used to describe people who weren’t engaging in BDSM and/or kink-related activities within their relationship. ‘Kink’ on the other hand, is a term used to define unconventional sexual practices, concepts or fantasies.

Personally, I think “vanilla” and “kink” are very broad terms and highly subjective as they put people’s sexual activities into boxes and label their sex as one thing or another. What’s kinky to one person, may well be very vanilla to another, and visa versa. Sex is a personal, subjective experience and it’s up to the individual to engage in activities that feel good for them, regardless of what sexual category they may fit into.

With the popularity of “kink” on the rise, many people are curious as to how they can spice up their sex life and make it a little less boring. This may have something to do with the popularity of the book “Fifty Shades of Grey”, or the increasing exposure to kinky porn that our society is consuming. With this in mind, here are 3 simple ways you can kink up sex today:

#1 Engage in dirty talk with your partner.

Begin by telling your partner how you like it, what you want, and what feels good. Talking about sex is a huge turn-on and a great way to get to know what your partner likes. Increase the kink by talking about your deepest darkest fantasises with your partner. Yes, this may feel vulnerable, but you’ll be surprised at how this simple act will spice up your sex life.

#2 Jump online or head to your local sex shop and purchase new sex props.

This may be as simple as buying a blindfold and experimenting with it, or you may want to get a little riskier and look into the variety of fetish products that are on the market. If you’re new to this, I recommend googling BDSM and kink ideas and you’ll find endless ideas and products on the market.

#3 Find a community of like-minded people.

There’s something for everyone in this world and I guarantee that there is a local community of people who meet up and engage in BDSM and kinky sex. If meeting at a sex party sounds daunting, begin by finding an online community where you engage in conversation with other people about your latest and greatest sexual fetish. If you’re single, this is the perfect place to meet someone who is into the same things as you.